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Being a counsellor helps me to understand how the human mind works and the ways in which you can manage your mental health. Weddings often evoke the emotion of stress, which can easily distract you, as the couple, from the bigger meaning of the day's significance. It's truly about the two of you coming together and committing your love to one another, while being celebrated by your loved ones.
However, there are many tasks involved in ensuring that the day runs smoothly. On the day of the wedding, here are some ways in which you can keep calm and stay grounded, no matter what happens.
Start your day as you normally would
Even though you may wake up with your thoughts screaming, I'm getting married today!!!", try to stick to your usual morning routine. If you normally start your mornings off slow, with a cup of coffee and being still, then your wedding day is the day to prioritize doing just that. The routine will ease your nervous system and give your body the chance it needs to wake up and ease into the day.
Have moments alone with your partner
The day will be busy indeed and there will be people around you for the full day. However, do speak to your wedding planner & photographer ahead of time about carving some time (even 10 minutes) into your wedding timeline for some time alone with your spouse.
Most of the nerves are present leading up to the ceremony, but once it's done, you're going to want to have a moment to soak in what just happened with your partner. Where you can, get some time alone with them during the gap between the ceremony and reception. It is best to let the bridal party/ planner know that you'll be stepping away from the crowd for a moment so that they know where to find you in case of emergencies.
Create boundaries
I love giving couples, especially brides this one piece of advice for their wedding day: If anybody needs to know anything, they need to ask 3 OTHER people, before they come to you. For example, your planner, your mom, and your maid-of-honour, before they come to you. This helps to filter out the overstimulation brides often feel while getting ready for the wedding, when everyone comes to ask them questions or inform them of mishaps.
Family dynamics also tend to play a big role in the stress couples often feel on the day. For example, if the groom's parents are divorced and there is tension between the parents, it naturally causes the groom stress. If these dynamics exists in your family, it may be helpful to set and communicate your expectations of your family members ahead of the day and set the boundaries you need in order to keep you calm.
Boundaries on your wedding day will be your friend.
Ask for help
You don't have to do everything on your own on your wedding day, in order for things to work out. Save yourself some stress by preparing a to-do list for your bridal tribe ahead of your wedding day. That's what your bridal party is for. Where you need help on the day, ask!
As the photography team, we're always on the look out for ways in which we can make the day smoother and more convenient for you. Need someone to help zip up your dress, we've got you.
Laugh, alot!
Lastly, laughter truly is the world's best medicine. Give yourselves permission to not have everything perfect. If the wedding decor does not match the picture-perfect Pinterest inspiration board, but rather has minor differences, trust me, no one will know except you. The day goes by so quickly and it'll be counterproductive to spend it worrying about the things that are out of your control at that moment. The best weddings I've attended included the couple living their best lives, laughing, and being silly throughout the day! It's the best antidote to stress.
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